How did the relationship begin?
Jon: I asked her out a month & a half ago, on St. Patrick's Day. We talked on the phone 4 hours straight that night.
Cat: Well, we'd talk on the phone almost every night, and I KNEW he liked me. He even told me, due to a trick-gone-wrong. So then he asked me out, and I said yes. ^-^
How long were you friends before changing to a romantic relationship?
Jon: We were kind-of friends for maybe 3 months, and close friends for 2 or 3. We used to not like one-another for the longest time before we started becoming friends. Now we're dating, haha.
Cat: Well, not a long time. We actually used to dislike each other with a passion. He was having a bad day one day and started writing the answers to a test down on the desk, and I got mad and erased them and he called me the 'b' word. He was very upset, and I was angry about the cheating. But then we added each other on MSN because a friend made us, and we started having this weird connection and we told each other everything and we were really open, more than other friends in that amount of time. It was really weird. I have no mind-set of time EVER, so I apologize for not knowing time-spans and dates... He later apologized. For the test thing.
What was the first date?
Jon: Well...Excluding her movie-party thing. We went out to eat, then went to a movie. We saw The Haunting in Connecticut. The movie was really sweet & both Cat and I liked it. That was the first night Cat held my hand. She has quite the grip...My fingers went kind of numb for awhile. We laughed at all the scary parts cuz everybody else would flip out.
Cat: We went to the movies. I LOVE scary movies, so we saw 'The Haunting in Connecticut.' Lovely movie, not much gore, great plot, nice ending. Anyway, we were watching it, and I saw his hand on the armrest that we shared, and I took it in mine. I feel kinda stupid for not letting up after I squeezed his hand really tight during the scary scenes... >.>;;
How long have you been together?
Jon: Didn't I already answer this? It's 6 weeks ago tonight.
Cat: Since St. Patrick's Day.
Do you have any advice for singles on how to get a relationship?
Jon: Just be respectful to the person you're interested in. Try to treat them very well. Always show that you care for them, and do small things that don't seem like much, because to the other person they mean more than they seem...Like the time when I was having an anxiety attack & Cat walked with me when we were still friends. It meant, and still means, quite a bit to me. Try to become friends, but don't get stuck at just friends, I've seen that happen a lot. Yeah...I suck at advice…
Cat: It normally works if you're friends with the person first. And don't start one of those 'I love you, I hate you' relationships if you know that it'll be one. If you don't want the drama, don't hook up with a person just to hook up. Those end in failure. There has to be a mutual feeling of trust. You have to care about the person, and show it. Do something that you wouldn't normally do for somebody you didn't like 'like that'. When Jon and I really connected, it was during a bad time for him, and he left to try to cool off and I went with him to see if he was okay and if I could do anything to help. Like I said, do something out of the ordinary. And for goodness sake, do not do the 'I'll be stupid to get their attention' routine. That does NOT work. It pushes them away, if anything.
NikkiNQ would like to thank everyone for their cooperation in the interview for UNCENSORED.
Cat: I had just moved into town, and apparently Jay's parents had heard about my family's arival, and they came to visit. Jay came in, and we quickly became friends. ^-^Who started the friendship?
Sam: My parents went over to her house to invite her family to Church. When they did that I invited Cat to the pool... and... well... she's been stuck with me since then... ^^; lol
Cat: Uhh... I don't remember which it was when she came over. Obviously she was there, but I don't remember who was more eager to be friends. XDWhat was it that made you two decided that you'd be friends?
Sam: Um... I thought it was mutual actually...
Cat: ... Uhh... She was nice? And I like swimming? And I was lonely? @.@How long do you think the friendship will last?
Sam: Um... I dunno... do you honestly decide to be friends? I think it kinda just happend over the next few months...
Cat: Untill Jay kills me from annoyance. XD And then I'll still be her friend in death. I deserved it anyway. XDWhat things do you guys like to do together?
Sam: Pfft until one of us kills the other... Which... well.. lol jk For as long as we can be friends. (Sorry Cat you're stuck with me! ;P)
Cat: I love how our answers matched perfectly. XD
Sam: Me too it makes me actually laugh out loud...
Cat: Uhh... I like to hang out...? And talk...? ... In general...? XDDo you have anything in common?
Sam: Um... probably brain-storm ideas and ponder different questions and discuss different things about life... Also just hang out and listen to music together...
Cat: We both like to write, and read. We type literately, and use big words in our everyday speech. (Remember 'epiphany'?) We both have terrible handwriting, and adore animals. We talk about stories all the time, and both like Abby from 'NCIS'. XDCan you see the two of you being friends forever?
Sam: Uh chea! We both sing in choir, love Twilight (which I got her hooked on) and Pita-ten (which she got me hooked on) And also Paramore... um... we both have rents that work in education...We both like to write... and... um... we hang out with a lot of the same people! Also we like to RP.
Sam: Um... didn't you already ask this? Ah well yes I definitely can because we know how to find the other in case we ever actually lose the others' address...Imagine one of you moved out of state. Would you keep in contact to keep the friendship alive?
Cat: FOREVER TO THE TWELFTH POWER.
Cat: YOSH. If it took learning to ride a pony. I kept in contact with Mishy when I moved a quarter of the globe. OUT OF COUNTRY. XD PHILLY.What's the craziest thing the two of you have done together?
Sam: Chea! If I can't stalk her in real life I"ll stalk her on DA... MSN... and... other places...
Sam: Um... I dunno probably one of our joint parties or that one time that we tried to play an elaborate April Fools joke on Shawney last year and... it... backfired...Have you two ever argued?
Cat: Uhh... I think it was... Umm... I can't remember... Uhh... Umn... Uhh... JOINT BIRTHDAY PARTY WITH GOTHIC TWIST.
Cat: Of course we've argued. Which good friendship has never argued? We always make up, anyway.What kind of advice would you have regarding friendships?
Sam: Yeah, but who doesn't? We've gotten over those small fights though so *shrug*
Sam: Hrm.. I would have to say, don't get really uptight and think that a fight or argument will comepletely destroy a friendship 'cause honestly if it's worth it, it won't. Also I'd like to add that it takes time to become close so don't be surprised if someone doesn't spill their guts the few first times that you see them. ^^; (speaking from experience there... lol)NikkiNQ would like to thank Sam and Cat for their participation in this little interview.
Cat: I'd say... Trust your instincts on what you should do, and always be truthful. Also, always have in mind your friend's feelings, and think how your actions will affect them. And... Uhh... If you mess up, don't hide it from them. Be straightforward, and tell them what you did wrong. If they're really your friend, they'll forgive you. Also, be yourself. People should like you for you, not your image. If they have a problem with how you are, they're not worth it.
I'm a son, grandson, half-brother four times, brother-in-law two times, uncle eight times, cousin more times than I can count, and a nephew eight times.How many siblings do you have?
Four older half-sisters-Jen, Chris, Missy, and Michelle.Are your grandparents alive? Tell me about them.
How is your relationship with your parents? Tell me about them.
Yeah. I have my grandmother and step-grandfather, and grandfather and step-grandmother. I'm a lot closer to my grandfather & step-grandmother. I'm around them more and my mom gets along better with her father. My mom's parents split up when she was 15 I believe. My grandmother and step-grandfather are trying to connect with me more in the past few years...But my grandmother forgot my birthday last year so I'm sort-of sore to that. My dad has a step-father still alive, who he thinks as his father. I talk to him on the phone occasionally, but I don't know what to say and I haven't seen him since 6th grade because he lives in Maine.
Okay...I have problems communicating with them. It's not too bad with my mom. I'm very close to her. But me and my father don't get along the best. Honestly I don't even like him. I see no reason to respect the lazy @$$ and he treats my mom bad sometimes. So I stand up for her if he keeps attacking her when they're fighting, which isn't intelligent. He thinks I don't like him because I did that once. He's not wrong really.Are you close with any other relatives? Who? Tell me about them.
My sister Jen. I love her a lot. She's the only sister I communicate with at all. The rest don't like my dad so I don't ever really see them. I can't ever remember talking to Missy...But she's still my sister... And I adore my niece Kira, Jen's daughter. She's so cute. I love her to death.What do you love most about your family?
That's a difficult one...My family...It's not very close. It's large, yes, but...There's so much distance between all of us. There's so many members I haven't seen or spoken to in years and years. I don't really love anything about it...I just hope to go out and start my own family and fix all the things that are wrong with mine.A fire has struck your town, and you are separated from your family. How would you find them?
Okay then. Since I don't have a cell phone, and they don't either, I would either have to stand in one spot till they appear or I might go to Cat's or something & call different places my parents might be. Wow my answer sucks.If you had to choose one person from your immediate family to kill so the rest of your family could live, who would it be? Why?
Myself so that I wouldn't have to deal with the pain of seeing them lose a loved one and having me cause it.What are some rules your parents have that you wish they didn't?
It's not so much rules as expectancies. The only rule I HATE is that my curfew is insanely early, except when I'm on a date (Go figure). I hate how they value grades so highly. It makes me feel like all the care about is how well I do and not who I am. I don't have a lot of rules, I don't really ever get into trouble.If your parents were to ever separate, even for a temporary time, which parent would you go with and why?
My mother. I would hate to be with my dad. Even though she gets on my nerves, I would probably end up getting into a fist-fight if I got stuck with my dad.Do you have any advice on dealing with families?
Just keep the communication going. It makes it so much easier, it really does.NikkiNQ would like to thank Jon for his participation in this quick little survey.
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