We all have a family. Whether we call them our family or not is up to personal reasons within that family. One thing is for certain though, family will always be there because we can't choose them. They're the people we're stuck with for life. Friends you can choose; family is what you're born into. Psychologists and other types of scientists now have a theory for the reason that we have families. It's called an attachment theory.
This theory cracks me up for several reasons. It doesn't say we have families because that's the only way we can come into this world. Rather, the theory says, "Attachment theorists consider children to have a need for a secure relationship with adult caregivers, without which normal social and emotional development will not occur." So, in other words, we could be born from trees if we wished, but we still need family so we can learn how to be human. Isn't that awesome? Science can be so hilarious sometimes!
Now, because I couldn't find much in the scientific world as far as families (aside from that hilarious little tidbit above), let's just move right along to the interview!
This theory cracks me up for several reasons. It doesn't say we have families because that's the only way we can come into this world. Rather, the theory says, "Attachment theorists consider children to have a need for a secure relationship with adult caregivers, without which normal social and emotional development will not occur." So, in other words, we could be born from trees if we wished, but we still need family so we can learn how to be human. Isn't that awesome? Science can be so hilarious sometimes!
Now, because I couldn't find much in the scientific world as far as families (aside from that hilarious little tidbit above), let's just move right along to the interview!
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INTERVIEW-As part of the familial relationships discussion, I asked a friend of mine to tell me about his family. Here is the log from that interview.
What kind of family relationships do you have?
I'm a son, grandson, half-brother four times, brother-in-law two times, uncle eight times, cousin more times than I can count, and a nephew eight times.How many siblings do you have?
Four older half-sisters-Jen, Chris, Missy, and Michelle.Are your grandparents alive? Tell me about them.
How is your relationship with your parents? Tell me about them.
Yeah. I have my grandmother and step-grandfather, and grandfather and step-grandmother. I'm a lot closer to my grandfather & step-grandmother. I'm around them more and my mom gets along better with her father. My mom's parents split up when she was 15 I believe. My grandmother and step-grandfather are trying to connect with me more in the past few years...But my grandmother forgot my birthday last year so I'm sort-of sore to that. My dad has a step-father still alive, who he thinks as his father. I talk to him on the phone occasionally, but I don't know what to say and I haven't seen him since 6th grade because he lives in Maine.
Okay...I have problems communicating with them. It's not too bad with my mom. I'm very close to her. But me and my father don't get along the best. Honestly I don't even like him. I see no reason to respect the lazy @$$ and he treats my mom bad sometimes. So I stand up for her if he keeps attacking her when they're fighting, which isn't intelligent. He thinks I don't like him because I did that once. He's not wrong really.Are you close with any other relatives? Who? Tell me about them.
My sister Jen. I love her a lot. She's the only sister I communicate with at all. The rest don't like my dad so I don't ever really see them. I can't ever remember talking to Missy...But she's still my sister... And I adore my niece Kira, Jen's daughter. She's so cute. I love her to death.What do you love most about your family?
That's a difficult one...My family...It's not very close. It's large, yes, but...There's so much distance between all of us. There's so many members I haven't seen or spoken to in years and years. I don't really love anything about it...I just hope to go out and start my own family and fix all the things that are wrong with mine.A fire has struck your town, and you are separated from your family. How would you find them?
Okay then. Since I don't have a cell phone, and they don't either, I would either have to stand in one spot till they appear or I might go to Cat's or something & call different places my parents might be. Wow my answer sucks.If you had to choose one person from your immediate family to kill so the rest of your family could live, who would it be? Why?
Myself so that I wouldn't have to deal with the pain of seeing them lose a loved one and having me cause it.What are some rules your parents have that you wish they didn't?
It's not so much rules as expectancies. The only rule I HATE is that my curfew is insanely early, except when I'm on a date (Go figure). I hate how they value grades so highly. It makes me feel like all the care about is how well I do and not who I am. I don't have a lot of rules, I don't really ever get into trouble.If your parents were to ever separate, even for a temporary time, which parent would you go with and why?
My mother. I would hate to be with my dad. Even though she gets on my nerves, I would probably end up getting into a fist-fight if I got stuck with my dad.Do you have any advice on dealing with families?
Just keep the communication going. It makes it so much easier, it really does.NikkiNQ would like to thank Jon for his participation in this quick little survey.
Next on UNCENSORED: Friends Forever--The People You Choose to Hang With
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SOURCES:
"Attachment theory." Wikipedia: The Free Encyclopedia. 2009. Wikimedia Foundation, Inc. 23 Apr 2009. <"http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory">